Second Chances


One year ago, my husband was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia.  He had overcome Multiple Myeloma and had been in remission after a stem cell transplant for over five years.

Leukemia gave us a different outcome.

Little did I even dream that one year later, I would be in the  9th month of widowhood.

I also gave myself a lot of grief about my relationship with my husband those last few months.  I felt I could have done so much more for him.  As if somehow, if I had known, I’d have done things differently.

Fact is, I didn’t.

But I was still more than willing to condemn myself for my actions and also lack of actions.

I’m so grateful that God gave me Romans 8 to memorize last year.  

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1

And as the year progressed, this verse was added  …

'Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.”’ John 8:11-12

I like to think of those words, “From now on sin no more” as meaning, now you know the mistakes you made … try your best not to repeat them. A second chance.

Translated into, you never know which day will be your last day with someone. Take full advantage of each chance you have to be kind.

The death of my brother took me by surprise in March.

One month and a day later, my husband left this world.

Then, in December, my mom took her last breath.

I think about the little things I could have done, and now I am determined not to miss those openings for kindness with other people.

I’ll never be perfect at it.

But, I’ll never be condemned for the times I fall short.

That is what grace is all about.

I am the one who is hard on myself for so many things.  And each moment I spend condemning myself is one moment less to live my life a different way.  God’s way.

Are you condemning yourself for something you’ve done, or something you didn’t do?  Are you beating up on yourself because you’ve failed?

If that is where you are today, do yourself a favor and go read Romans 8.  Read it slowly, carefully.  Reread it.

Breath in the fact that there is no condemnation when you walk with him.  

Only a second chance.

Take it.

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