What Do You Need To Let Go Of?


When I was in grad school, we learned about two decidedly different personality responses that would guide our treatment plans.

There were people who tended to blame themselves - feeling sad and guilt ridden, and often angry at themselves.

There were people who, most often,  blamed others - feeling wronged and angry at others.

I fall in to the first category.  I used to joke that I should have been either Jewish or Catholic, as I carried so much guilt.      

I’ve had this confirmed in several devotionals that I read in one day, and also, this morning, in a book I’m reading.

I hang on to guilt. 

I ask for forgiveness, but continue to beat myself up - going back over the same things.

I’ve felt a lot of guilt over the things I did or didn’t do before my husband died.  I can go back into my younger days and find so many things I feel guilty over.

And I bring them up again and again and again.

I’m finally understanding how much that is harming me, both spiritually and emotionally.

And in this coming year, I’m going to let go of what I chose to call “false guilt.”  Guilt over things that I know I’ve been forgiven for as I’ve asked, and things I feel guilty for that are really not my responsibility at all.

I love what Max Lucado says in his new book “Before Amen.”  To paraphrase: asking God for forgiveness - and to take away any feelings of guilt - and then, when it raises it’s ugly head to quite firmly say, “I left you at the foot of the cross, now …. STAY THERE!”

Are there things in your life you still need to ask forgiveness for?  Then simply ask.

And, once you have asked for that forgiveness, don’t pick that load back up and carry it.

We carry around enough issues as we deal with our chronic challenges … don’t let false guilt be one of them.

You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.

I know I was.

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 NASB (Emphasis, mine.)

Father God, thank you for your amazing mercy and grace.  I’m grateful that you do convict us of the times when we miss the mark and grant us the privilege of forgiveness.  Help us to let go of those transgressions after we confess them to you, and leave them where they belong … at the foot of the cross. Amen and amen.

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