What I've Learned From Pain and Loss

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For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now. Romans 8:22

I've a friend who has had a number of things happen in her life lately that are difficult to understand.  There are so many questions.  Why did God let this happen? Does God truly give you no more than you can handle?  Does God even care?

Difficult questions and often seemingly no answers.

Now, I'm not going to claim to have all the answers.  In fact, I have very few.  But I do have a few thoughts along those lines.  I guess they come from the tragedies in my own life - the biggest being the gruesome murder of my adult daughter.  That event threw me into a crisis of faith where I questioned if there even was a God.  They were such difficult times.

I'd like to share some thoughts on what I learned.

To rearrange the title to a book written years ago - Bad things do happen to good people.  

Some things bring so much pain and make so little sense.

I heard the phrase that we live in a world fractured by sin.  Since the entrance of sin and evil into our world, there has been much pain and suffering.  Not a great answer, but I think a truth.

I've been studying in the book of Romans - and it dawned on me this morning that the above verse kinda says the same thing.

The whole creation suffers the effects of sin and evil.

I know it's not a satisfying answer.  Yet for me, it gives a small piece of the "Why" question an answer.

It's not God doing these things to us.

It's not that there is no God.

It's that we live in a fallen world - one corrupted and torn apart.  The world the way it is now isn't what God had in mind when we were created.  

We live in the aftershocks of a terrible storm of destruction.

But we do have a reassurance.  One that is handed out oh-too-easily when things are going badly.

I almost hesitate to put it out here.

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.  Romans 8:28.

Now, before you quit reading this pat little response, I'd like to add that I see hope in these verses.  You see, God didn't cause the pain and the illnesses and tragedies that happen.  And He can't simply step in right now and make things right. That takes away our ability to choose Him - we'd be living robot lives.  But, one day, He will.  For now, we have choices - good or evil.

But God ... God takes these things - each and every one and works them together to create what I call a "higher good."  This verse doesn't promise we will see this immediately.  He doesn't even say when or how.  But somehow - someway - good can and will come from it.  God says so.

His word doesn't return empty.  His will - will be accomplished no matter how man steps in.  

The final promise?  That one day we will understand.

Yes.  Life hurts.  THIS life hurts.  But so does childbirth.  And we are being birthed into a new world and a new life in Him.

I hate that it hurts.  I hate the things that happen.  But I love the God who will somehow bring good from the worst of times.

Father God, My heart grieves for each who is suffering today - whether from illness, or pain, from losses and heartaches.  I pray that you will grant them your mercy and grace as they walk through the dark days.  Help them to know, deep in their heart, that you can bring forth good from the most terrible of times.  Amen and amen.


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