When Losses Snowball

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In the grief work I am doing, it was suggested that grief snowballs and brings up every loss from the past we haven’t dealt with, and write them down.

When I convinced myself I could face doing that, my losses went way back to the loss of my first pet.  There were so many, more than I imagined.

The losses to be written about were not only human losses - but any kind of loss that affected our lives. Friends, pets, situations, dreams … anything 

It helped me understand myself better when I had the list all written out - and realized there was still pain from many of them.

Interestingly, there were some losses that didn’t bring intense pain.  The death of my father, being one.  I know He was ready and eager to end his life on this earth and go onto the next.  I think of him with joy and feel honored to have been his daughter.

But many other losses - they still hurt.  Some so badly I barely wanted to think of them.  Yet, I wrote them down.

And, as I did, I pictured an image of a heart - each loss making a hole.  Some larger than others - some still bleeding from the pain.  Some, feeling never-ending.

And as I wrote down the words, Scripture came to mind.

The Lord is near to the broken hearted and saves theses who are crushed in spirit.  Psalm 34:18

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord, Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

So, while I know that this life is about loss, it is also about healing - and love.  It is about a God who can comfort us in all of our afflictions, if we seek Him.

We may have no choice regarding the losses in our lives - but we always have the choice to seek Him in our pain.

Who will separate us from the love of Christ?  Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril or sword?  Just as it is written, “For Your sake we are being put to death all day long.  We were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.  But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. Romans 8:35-38

Father God, I pray that each who seeks your comfort today will find it.  And, I pray that each of us can pass on the comfort - that we will uphold and care for one another, understanding that the pain we deal with is real and challenging - but that you, O Lord, are fully able to save those of us who feel crushed in Spirit.  Give us hope, Lord.  Grant us comfort as we face each loss we endure.  Amen and amen

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